Getting married in Australia is a relatively straightforward process, and currently about 80% of couples choose to get married in a civil ceremony, rather than a religious one. Central to that is engaging the services of a professional, personable and creative celebrant. A great celebrant will walk the couple through the legal process and requirements, while working closely with them to create and deliver a personal, authentic and unique ceremony that will be the highlight of the day, not just a legal box to tick!
Anyone can get married in Australia, not just Australian residents and citizens, as long as they: are over the age of 18, although special permission can be given by court order in exceptional circumstances are not already married to someone else, and able to provide evidence of the end of any previous marriages can show proof of identity, usually by providing a passport OR a drivers license and an original birth certificate can give at least one full month, and not more than 18 months notice of the marriage by completing and lodging a form called the "Notice of intended marriage" with an authorised celebrant say certain words during the ceremony, and have 2 witnesses present to hear them have the ceremony conducted by an authorised celebrant (civil or religious).
The ceremony itself should be considered the heart of the celebration. Whether it is an intimate elopement with just the couple and their witnesses, or if there are hundreds of guests and a huge party planned, the way the experience and skill of the chosen celebrant is integral to creating beautiful memories for the couple and their family and friends.
Legally, the celebrant must recite what is called the "Monitum" which is a brief statement taken directly from The Marriage Act (1961) which is the federal government act that deals with marriages in Australia. The Monitum is a statement that must be recited word for word (as it is written in the act), and cannot be changed in any way. It's purpose is to: identify the couple as the two people who are about to get married remind them that marriage is a legally binding agreement remind them of the definition of marriage under Australian law, which since our legislation change on marriage equality is "the union of two people, to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life".
As well as the celebrants statement, the couple must recite what are known as the "legal vows". Again, they are taken directly from the Marriage Act and cannot be substituted in any way. They are :
"I call upon the persons here present, to witness that I (full name) take you (full name, to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/partner"
Finally, the couple, their witnesses, and the celebrant, must all sign the marriage certificates.
In Australia, it is possible for couples to have what is known as a "Legals only" ceremony which is very brief and only includes the minimum legal wording. The majority of couples however, want the ceremony to reflect their relationship, values and the unique and personal connection they share. This is where a great celebrant can take a ceremony from a basic short ceremony that ticks the legal boxes, to creating a space to celebrate the couple's uniqueness, and allow the emotions to flow in all their beauty.
Acknowledging traditional owners and custodians of the land, introducing or even "roasting" the bridal party if there is one, making a huge fuss of parents and other special people present, honouring lost loved ones, telling the couples "story", exchanging rings, and saying "I do" can all be part of a great ceremony. A good celebrant will walk the couple through the possibilities, while also suggesting ways to make the ceremony totally POP! Things like having a shot of the couples favorite drink, making a unity sandwich, ring warmings, personalised vows and guest led surprises can bring so much to a ceremony, and ensure that the couple and their guests are not just listening, but LOVING and totally appreciating the importance of the promises being made.
A great ceremony is not just about the couple getting legally married and ticking a few legal boxes, it is about reflecting their personalities authentically, while simultaneously setting the tone for the rest of the celebration... Whether that be a quiet dinner for two somewhere amazing, or a huge love party with all and sundry.
For more information regarding the legal requirements when getting married in Australia, visit https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/marriage/get-married
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